Saturday, December 30, 2023

 


                                           REFLECTIONS OF A USED CAR SALESMAN 

Sometimes I wonder where we have gone and where we might go. Living in a world where violence and hate are lifted in the name of Spirit, I know that at our core we are better than this.

When we let our fear of “the others” rule our actions and our beliefs we become victims of our own shortcomings.

Yet the same people who would elevate destruction also feed the poor, help the widow and orphan, build homes for those without.

What is prejudice but fear?

Long ago I was fortunate to discover that my anger was but fear evolved and in so doing I began to find the courage to at least try to live in communion with my fellows. I understand that we must defend and protect those we love and our country, yet I have come to believe that,” a power greater than ourselves can restore us to sanity.”

When I stand in a voting booth or share what I believe to be truth, my prayer is that courage will overcome fear and I will know that each soul in this reality is a beating heart that yearns for salvation.

Would that I can act to protect each one of those beating hearts.

Wednesday, September 6, 2023

GOD ... Can You Hear Us?

 


 

Twice yesterday, I heard social commentary where one comedian then a renowned physicist spoke about an unfair God. Each stated they had cast off the idea of an omnipotent and omniscient power because they could not accept the suffering of life. Their perspective seemed to be that a benevolent, loving God would not create a world of such suffering as this.

I thought this way for many years. How could God allow abuse, addiction, cataclysmic events that kill thousands? Until I came to believe, “why not?” Did the scriptural authors  tell us that creation meant no pain? Sometimes I wonder if the Adam and Eve story is where the breakdown occurred. Were we created in His image to be without suffering until we ate from the “tree of knowledge”?

It came to me that this conundrum is much like marriage. Early we are saturated with desire and full of hope so we marry and have a honeymoon. There is usually a period of relative bliss until life begins to happen. We encounter problems and pain. “We” being the optimum word here. We move through it all together. At times we grow apart. Then at other times we grow closer. If we stick it out (for better or worse) we come to realize that all of it has taught us many lessons. We have grown stronger. We now “love” one another.

When he was 11 years old my son was diagnosed with bone cancer. It was horrifying. I can’t say there were no moments when I was angry with God. There were. Yet when all was said and done I came to a place of painful acceptance rather soon. “Bouncing molecules”, I heard myself say.

God didn’t attack my son or my family. It was literally cellular. Some cells that all of us carry dormant triggered and became active producing a tumor. The year of chemo threatened to kill him. My prayer was that his suffering ease, however that looked. My wife has shared that her prayer was that he survive.

He has survived yet with many challenges. We did too. As a result, I found that I was closer to God as I understood him beyond any place I had been before. Early morning on the greenway outside the hospital I would run into the rising sun communing with God and His creation. Life and death were near in each breath. One morning as I returned on the path I looked up to his floor … his window. The sun was bathing the side of the mostly glass children’s’ hospital. In golden  light there was a cross. I know our minds will play tricks. I kept looking as I struggled for air. The cross did not dim. It has not faded still.

My wife and I are still married. My son works alongside me now. He’s a bit cranky and hurts quite a bit yet full of spit and vinegar. Not long past he sat at my desk.

“I’d like to start going back to church, I think, Dad.”

He’s never uttered a negative word about God. If anybody has a right to be mad and or disillusioned, I’d say it was him.

Through it all my family persevered. I would say that overall, we are better for it. There are scars and cracks for sure. I think the Muslim poet Rumi spoke to it all best:

The wound is the place where the light enters you”

No doubt life is full of pain and sorrow. It is unfair and often devastating. Is God punishing us? Why would a benevolent God allow such things?

I suspect he created order from the chaos. We … this reality … are his thought and his love. There’s good and bad. I suspect what matters is how we deal with it.

I have often imagined a black American slave woman toiling in the boiling southern sun of a cotton field, singing gospel hymns in praise and wonder, smiling to the Father of her heart and salvation and I know:

“Seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all the rest will be made unto you. “

Matthew 6:33

I feel sort of bad for those commentators and all who feel the same. In resentment I too once threw “the baby out with the bathwater”. I once despised what I perceived to be an unjust God.

That’s when I learned what real suffering was.

 

Tuesday, September 5, 2023

OCEAN OF TRANQUILITY

                                     


I was standing with my 5-year-old godson on the beach by water’s edge.

“The beach is my favorite place, Baba. It’s like God.”

“I feel the same way, Toby. We can share that now.”

Wind like the sound of AUM rumbles in my ear, caresses my skin, Divine Mother’s touch. I watch him there in his new oversized ball cap digging at surf’s edge. White foam tumbles out of the blue gray Atlantic, reaching for him, time and time again; myriad tendrils of foam yearning to touch this small boy playing under the universe.

Every now and then he pops up and runs back and forth with it like a sandpiper … laughing all the while.

I am older now. All the scars have weight. Each day I work through the pain of mistake after mistake, trying not to let remorse win, seeking the flow of divine witness. I have to just keep doing the next right thing.

An old, once upon a time, China Fleet sailor sitting here watching this child play at surf’s edge, indefatigable and I know … the cycle continues. Like the ebb and flow of the tide, my remorse fades as the sea calls me home, blessed home … into eternity.

As a youth I railed my plaintive cry; “I seek to find the eyes to see existence’ ocean of tranquility.”

Finally it is done.

For now.

Thursday, December 22, 2022

LONG HAIR





 

                                     

 

Our hair grew, and our hearts wilted. 

We took beauty and filled it with drugs until emaciated,

We found ourselves lying broken in the dark.

All of it seemed a bit funny yet the laughter bled,

Into a hollow place.

Gray now and wondering, I work to pay penance,

Yet the end will not come.

Arrogant still, I refuse to forgive us … forgive myself.

I’ve seen purgatory and it does not want to let me go.

Monday, December 12, 2022

Jesus Freaks

 

It was my senior year in High School. We were the last class that was not going to be “bussed” as per the new federal law. Throughout the country there had been riots and marches. The borough of Watts in LA had been burned, Kent State, Selma, spitting on soldiers returning from Vietnam. It seemed as if the whole country was on fire.

Things had gotten tense at school until one day it all came to a head. Fights started on the commons area. Before it was over students had spilled out of classes to join the fray. Anger and hate were like a poisonous gas

Administration, school security and eventually local police managed to restore some order and get folks back to class after a couple of hours. That night word began to travel that the next day some were bringing weapons. That was before the propagation of firearms among young folks but knives, chains and all manner of objects were at hand. Word was to look out for girls hiding sharpened hair picks in their afros.

Lunch came with some scattered fights in the halls until everyone was again gathered on the concrete commons area; whites on one side, blacks the other. The only exception was the “Jesus Freaks” sitting on the grass where they always were. They were sort of our original hippies; soiled blue jeans, vests, long hair.

They were tolerated because they never bothered anybody. They’d just play guitars and sing folk songs, so we hardly noticed them anymore. It was a “peace and love” thing.

You could feel the tension rising. There was a lot of glaring and balled up fists. Some began to shout profanities and try to goad one another into an altercation.

I was on high alert, watching everything, tensed, ready. Then out of the corner of my eye a tall thin “Jesus Freak” named Pat, sat his guitar in the case lying open on the grass and strode toward the black crowd at the top of the steps across the common.

He gestured for someone there to come to him. A petite black girl in an Indian cotton blouse and bell bottom blue jeans walked down a couple of steps. Pat turned and stooped and the girl sort of shimmied up onto his shoulders. He walked back toward his buddies. They all stood. One picked up Pat’s guitar and began playing that old camping favorite, “Kumbaya.” No kidding … freakin’ “Kumbaya”. They started singing. You could hear the girl’s clear soprano above it all as Pat turned and faced the crowd. A couple of the hippies headed towards the black crowd and students there joined them to walk back onto the grass singing, back slapping, punching each other on the shoulder.

Across the concrete no man’s land, you could see confusion. One guy shouted, “to hell with this,” and stomped away. Gazes began to soften. Heads began to hang. Weapons were pushed back down into pockets. A white football player in his team jersey started walking toward the black crowd, toward a fellow football player. They both reached out their hands and shook.

At that point many started to walk into the void to shake hands and hug, laugh and sing so that before long there was a joyful noise, people on shoulders, some sitting on the steps together hugging …  crying.

Unlike the day before there was no intercom announcement to return to class. When the bell rang. The Jesus Freaks gathered their stuff and began to head that way. Most followed.

Other than a few isolated incidents there were no more riots at my school. All the assemblies and counseling, all the newsletters and announcements and newspaper articles … none of it, had made the slightest difference until Pat stood up and crossed that barrier.

That’s the day I learned about a different kind of courage. The kind that can change the world. Alone, striding across the grass that one thin guy changed OUR world just like another thin guy changed the ENTIRE world two thousand years ago.

We looked at Jesus Freaks different after that.

The irony that Pat looked like the Jesus of our Bibles, on our walls, did not escape me. Here now during this season of Advent as we wait for Christ’s coming, I remember. When Pat stood that day, we were all witness to the restoring birth of Christ in our hearts.

All the hate was dissolved into love. (Even though we didn’t want to call it that) That’s what this season means to me. We are renewed in the light that dwells in our hearts. We are reminded of that glowing baby swaddled in the manger come to save us … come to heal all that separates us from the Divine light that is our Creator

 Come to show us how to live.

 

In Christ’s name we pray,

Friday, September 16, 2022

BRAVERY

 

   


                                                                  

 My son rode the yellow school bus in grade school. He was 5th or 6th grade when we got a call to come to the school. There had been an altercation on the bus. A girl 10- 15 pounds heavier than him had gotten mad and attacked him.

 I’m rather old school. I figure if someone attacks you it’s game on so I’m thinking he’s at least been suspended.

“Where do we pick him up then?” I ask.

No Mr. Hicks, he’s in class. There’s no reason at all for us to reprimand or punish him,” the principal says. “that’s not why we called you here at all. The girl has been suspended for attacking him, but you see he refused to fight back.”

Stunned I mutter, “What the hell?”

“We asked him why not and he said his Mom told him to never hit a guwell.” Him and his twin brother pronounced girl this way. Must say I kind of hated it when it faded.

“We asked you to come in, so we could tell you in person what a fine young boy you have.”

I was born in the fifties. Bottom line, someone attacks you, especially someone bigger, you go to it. I was also taught not to hit girls though. I left confused.

His Mom admonished me for my rant about defending yourself.

When I got home from work, he was in his room. I went in. He was sprawled on the bed reading a schoolbook. I sat down beside him. He gazed up with those big chocolate eyes like his Mom’s. 

“Hey Dad! How’s it going?”

He’s got a scratch on his forehead and a budding bruise on his cheekbone. My blood rises as I tousle his hair.

“Understand you had a bit of a tough day, Sport.”

“Ah, it wasn’t so bad. She was probably mad at something else. We usually get along fine. Actually, I get along with her better than most.”

Seeing he’s ok, I go to take a shower. Looking in the mirror I see a guy that has spent a lifetime scrapping one way or another and for the first time ever I’m thinking maybe something’s off. I was in a few scrapes on the school bus back in the day. Granted it was never with a girl but 10-15 pounds is a lot.

Then it hits me. I always figured it took courage to fight. In that moment I thought of all those kids watching as she pummeled him. He’s no sissy and had his share of scuffles but he just took it in front of everybody.

Then I hear the guy in the mirror say, “I’m thinking that’s about as courageous as it gets.”

Tuesday, August 24, 2021

The Everly Brothers

 


I was resting and reading on a Sunday and there it was, “Don Everly of the Everly Brothers duo has died.”Most know Don was the black-haired brother. I was a grade school kid when I first heard them.My feet stood in the country music roots of my father but branched out with the times through and past Elvis into the new world of rock.

I always felt like the Everly Brothers bridged that transition with an almost ethereal presence of chromosomal harmonies.I first watched them on a tv show called “Shindig” standing there in the spotlight on a darkened stage.

 Their practically gaunt faces, slicked back hair, high cheek bones and flashing eyes,  voices like angels, singing “All I Have to Do “ felt to me like a running stream.Don seemed to harbor deep pain as his brother watched cautiously while holding the harmony.

When a song ended, I always wanted more.I realize as I reflect now I never talked about it much with anyone, but it seemed like Don Everly was wise with pain.

Maybe when you have a moment, google “The Everly Brothers”.  It’ll be best if it’s an early video and then we’ll know something together.Straddling two worlds is a heavy load for anybody.Add drugs and tumultuous, seismological shifts in youth culture and society an you’ve got a heady mix

.Goodbye, Don. Tell Phil we all said hello and thanks to you both for the courage of showing us your souls.